Getting Over Her

I’ve learned that there are two different stages to a ‘break up’. The first part is the getting over her and the second part is getting over the fact that she is over you. I’ve always been able to get through the first stage quite easy, but the second stage seems to be a challenge for me.

It is good to see a woman I was once with move on and find a man who is right for her. But to say this is easy to handle would be the lie of all lies.

Every time an ex moved on, I started to wonder… How could she forget what we had? How could she forget the connection we had? How can she think about those amazing times and forget about them? I then start to ask some whys and then I start asking myself some whos. Sometimes I even ask a few whats too. I ask myself these questions because I remember being the best of everything in this girls life and I thought when we broke up she would never forget that, only to find out she did. But maybe she hasn’t really forgotten, maybe she has just chosen not to dwell on the past and she has decided to move on with someone else.

I’ve had conversations with previous girlfriends and they’ve told me how much of an idiot I’ve been but they also manage to tell me how great I was/am. These are beautiful things to hear, but it hurts like hell. The fact that an ex girlfriend can tell me these things without a hint of pain or regret in her voice kills me because it’s hard to accept that someone can love you and be over you at the same time.

Peace&MuchLoveToYou

Love

Sait ‘PeeWee’ Cham

Is Sexy Overrated?

As soon as I meet a woman that I am interested in, the advanced micro-chip in my brain & the Dual Pentium processor in my penis automatically places her into one of two categories.

The ‘sexy’ category - contains women we use for sexual gratification.

The ‘beauty’ category - contains women we feel can provide an emotional connection that can feed our soul and direction for the rest of our lives.

Now, I think one of life’s biggest misconceptions is people thinking being ‘sexy’ is a good thing. A lot of women confuse sexy & beauty. I mean, being in the sexy category is great if you are seeking nothing but meaningless sex. However, if you are a female seeking something deeper than a filling fling I strongly advise you to steer clear from the sexy category and navigate towards the beauty category more. Bearing in mind beauty is not just on the exterior.

Let me explain why I don’t believe being in the sexy category is as good as it seems.

Sexy means - being sexually suggestive or sexually stimulating. 94% of males should would agree with this definition. When a male sees a female dressed in a provocative way that shows off of her beautiful curves, cleavage, underwear etc it arouses a man almost immediately. So when every ounce of blood in my body rushes directly to my crotch because I can see a glimpse of your frenchies, the probability that I see you as anything other than a sexual objective is relatively low.  Unfortunately you have aroused me sexually by showing me that part of who you are. Is that how you really want to come across?

Now this isn’t to say being sexy is completely wrong, that’s not what I am trying to say. I just personally believe your sexy side should be reserved for your partner and your beautiful side is what should have made your partner fall for you in the first place.

Women need to realise that all attention is not good attention.

What makes things worse is the fact that it is super difficult for a ‘beautiful’ woman to come across as girlfriend material amongst other ‘sexy’ women who come across as ‘come-shag-me-now’ material. Us males are to blame for this, unfortunately sex tends to cloud our judgment and imbalance our thinking.

To all you girls that go for the whole sexy look, please don’t expect a guy to place you in the ‘beautiful category’ when you are triggering all of his sexual senses.

P.S I used the picture of Rihanna as I think visually she is an example of someone that is far more sexy than she is beautiful. In my opinion. Then again I haven’t met her.

Peace&MuchLoveToYou

Love

Sait ‘PeeWee’ Cham

The Train Girl: I need your advice

For the first time I need your advice.

You may be aware of the fact that I am a lonely wasteman single man. This does not mean I am looking for someone and at the same time it does not mean I am not looking for someone.

Earlier on this week I was sitting on the train with my iPod on shuffle blasting rap music from my earphones when suddenly this young woman sat directly across from me. An attractive young woman. An attractive, big breasted young woman in a low cut top may I add. Now, I try to practice being a gentleman, so I tried my hardest not to stare but I definitely looked…a few times.

Before I proceed let me give you a little background information about myself. Over the years, I have developed and perfected what I like to call the “stone cold look”. This means that no matter how sexy, beautiful or attractive I find a woman, I give her the stone cold look. The concept behind the stone cold look is to never let a woman know that I find her sexy, beautiful or attractive until I can somehow confirm how she feels about me. I developed this look as a result of constantly getting shut down by disinterested girls. But now you know this information let’s get back to the story.

I gave this young attractive woman the stone cold look and she gave me the exact same look in return. She didn’t grin, she didn’t screw her face and she didn’t raise her eyebrows or lick her lips. She gave me no indication of whether she cared that I had been staring at her boobies or not. She didn’t even give me that “please stop being rude and staring at my chest” angry face.

An exchange of eye contact lasted a few seconds but body language is 80% of communication and a few seconds is really all you need. It was clear she wasn’t interested.

Now, usually I would just cut off eye contact and stare out the window for the rest of my journey. But something came over me, it must have been a sign from God because my iPod automatically shuffled the music from Adele to Drake and all I could hear was him say to me ‘You only live once that’s the motto nxgga YOLO!’. I took it as a sign.

To be honest, I am not a huge fan of approaching women in public for three reasons.

1. I am more confident if a certain level of flirtation has happened before I approach. It could be something small like a quick smile or a flirtatious glance. It is rare that I will randomly walk up to some woman that hasn’t given me at least some hint that she is interested.
2. I do not like approaching women in places I may see them again. For example work or a social club. Turning me down is embarrassing enough. Now I have to relive the fact that you turned me down every time I see you. I am not on that.
3. I have to be in the mood to approach.

But something was different this time maybe it was the fact I just had a haircut and I was feeling like Trey Songz a new man.

So I spoke to her and asked her what she was listening to, where she was heading and I warned her about the fact she was hardly wearing any clothing and it was supposedly going to rain later that day. We spoke for the entire duration of that journey, she laughed and she smiled and overall I thought I had done a fairly good job. It was my stop and as I was getting off. I offered her my business card, she took it and I walked off the train and didn’t look back.

She didn’t waste time and she called me that same night. After a long 3 hour stimulating and funny conversation I learned a lot of things about her.

Including the fact she has a boyfriend. She has been with him for two years.

Now this is where you guys come in.

I am really confused so via Twitter (@PeeWeeOfficial) could you please help me answer the following 4 questions.

1. Why would a girl give a guy a number and talk to him if she has a boyfriend?
2. Am I getting friend zoned from the onset?
3. Am I ugly?
4. What does she want from me?

Please help if you can.

I look forward to hearing from you.

Peace&MuchLoveToYou

Love

Sait ‘PeeWee’ Cham